When considering the best co-parenting plan for your children, some people conclude that “nesting” might be a solid option. Nesting is when the children remain in the original family home full-time, while the parents take turns moving in and out, based on the schedule established in their parenting plan. Below, we’ll explore some of the pros and cons of nesting to help you determine if it’s a good approach for your family.
In our experience, nesting can be a great option for co-parents who have the financial means, the flexibility and the maturity to work together to maintain the family home for the stability of the children. Confident, relaxed parents are the key ingredients to secure, happy kids. When considering the best co-parenting plans for your family, it is wise to be very honest with yourself about what you need to establish a solid foundation for your new life. If moving in and out of your marital home is going to leave you feeling stressed and frazzled, or trapped in a cycle of old arguments with your ex, it will likely cancel out the benefits of nesting for your children. Likewise, if you have a great relationship with your ex, and the whole family is on board, ready to pitch in to maintain a nesting scenario, it can be a great way to sustain a sense of normalcy and routine for the kids, and to demonstrate solidarity among parents. Either way, it should be noted that most nesting situations we’ve mediated have been temporary and transitional, rather than long-term solutions. Knowing that, parents who choose nesting as the right option today should be prepared to re-negotiate and re-submit an updated parenting plan in the future.
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