In the world of fairytales and fantasy, every couple lives happily ever after, never argues, and stays as wonderfully in love with one another forever. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. While it’s true that arguments happen and situations can become stressful, some couples are not able to overcome the divorce issues which underlie the stress.
When this happens, divorce may be the only recourse for couples because they realize they will be happier and more fulfilled separated than together. Below are the most common causes of divorce, though not an exhaustive list since each couple’s situation is unique.
Top 5 Reasons for Divorce
Although no situation is identical when it comes to ending a marriage, there are several common causes of divorce that we at the Center for Divorce Solutions have seen during our practice of mediation. They include:
- Infidelity – Extramarital affairs are certainly one of the most common (likely THE most common) causes of divorce. There are many reasons why people cheat, but it is often an issue that cannot be forgiven.
- Financial troubles – Money causes people to act differently than they normally would and treat one another differently as well. Whether it is the fact that one spouse makes more money than the other or the ways in which each partner believes the marital finances should be handled, financial issues frequently lead to divorce.
- Communication issues – When a couple is unable to effectively communicate, it very quickly breaks down the emotional positivity in a marriage. Yelling, passive-aggressive comments, giving the “cold shoulder,” and many other unhealthy methods of communicating definitely make up a top 5 reason for divorce.
- Lack of intimacy – Intimacy can be physical or emotional, and a lack of it can certainly lead to separation. Ignoring your spouse’s needs (physical, emotional, sexual, etc.) is a sure-fire way to build up resentment and become grounds for divorce.
- Unrealistic expectations – It is easy to fantasize about what the perfect spouse and perfect marriage would be like, but it is often more difficult to realize that those fantasies should not be the expectation in real life. Having unrealistic expectations about your partner or marriage can place strain on your relationship, and when they don’t live up to the expectations, the result is disastrous.
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At the Center for Divorce Solutions, we advocate for divorce mediation so that you can have a kinder, gentler divorce. If you and your spouse have decided to separate, we can help. Contact us to discuss your mediation options or request a consultation online!